"Your task is not to seek for love,

but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself

that you have built against it."         Rumi

Having the partnership of your heart's desire is possible.  Preparing to partner involves self-awareness and a willingness to learn new skills in a mood of fun and curiousity and practice these new skills until they are second-nature.  Guiding and supporting you in these endeavours is our expertise.  Here's why.

Our founder, Clare Myatt, trained in California and is licensed there as a Marriage and Family Therapist (what we call in the UK a psychotherapist).  In her work with hundreds of singles and couples, she noticed several patterns:

• even the brightest, most sophisticated, high-achieving clients engaged in repetitive relationship behaviour that didn't make sense, was counter-intuitive and destined for disaster - such as choosing the same type of incompatible mate repeatedly, or behaving in the same ill-advised way with different partners (for example being controlling, needy, jealous, distant, over-zealous, demanding).  The question this provoked for Clare, given the background of her other training and expertise was this: what are they practicing?;
• couples would consult for relationship or marriage counselling after some period of time (varied, so no average to offer here) and if/when the harsh truth finally emerged, the majority would acknowledge that if they knew about their partner then what they know now (in other words, what had been revealed over time), they would not have ... moved in together, got engaged, got pregnant, proposed, got married, which sounded like The Grapefruit Story.

Utilising a blend of the best research available about what makes partnership thrive, the skills required for being an attractive-from-the-inside-out partner and how to embody these characteristics, Clare has designed a programme for curious, self-aware singles to be actively engaged in their emotional, mental, spiritual and physical preparation for being the best partner they can be, thereby attracting the best partner for them.

In addition, if you think you may have found the partner of your dreams and want to be smart about the long-term possibilities you have together as a couple, Clare has designed a programme for you too.  Drawing on her own and others' expertise, couples are invited to participate in a programme designed to help you have the difficult conversations essential prior to making a commitment.